“Embedded in our souls is a quiet wish, a secret hope we carry with us always… we want to feel wanted.”
Have you ever been rejected? By a friend, a boy, or a parent?
Perhaps it was just recently when you saw via social media that a group of friends were hanging out and forgot to send an invite your way. Or maybe you really liked a guy and when you suggested your interest in him, he did not respond the way you would have liked him to. In all situations, it is quickly learnt that friends come and go. New crushes come and go. And in my experience, when they did go, when friends rejected me — I felt alone. When I didn’t get the response back that I wanted from a crush — I felt unlovable. Have you ever heard people around you use the term, “forever alone”? I’ve heard friends say it targeted towards themselves in laughable, joking manner. But me? I truly believed that I would forever be alone! Everyone else had boyfriends. Everyone else had a great group of friends. So I wondered, why not me?
This feeling to be wanted, loved, and thought of is nothing we should be ashamed of. In fact, we were designed with this longing embedded deep within us for a purpose. We were created to be loved.
However, because that longing has been so deeply ingrained into our DNA, we will search for anything and everything to satisfy that craving. This is when the enemy can easily deceive us by twisting God’s good intentions for bad. It is Satan’s only purpose to steal our identity in Christ, kill our relationship with Him, and destroy our purpose and calling. (John 10:10)
Life can become easily foggy when us women forget who we are and whose we are. Instead of claiming the truths that at one point were engraved into our DNA, we end up covering ourselves in the lies that everything else seems to shout at us. It is not long before we claim them for ourselves. “Not good enough” “Worthless” “Disgusting” “Ugly” “a Failure” “Alone”. This can quickly become our identity.
Yet, while we have been trudging around in our broken identities, we have been pursued by the King of Kings who since the beginning has fashioned a story of our redemption. Even before we were aware of Him, he was there waiting for us. He was there when the one mistake lead to a million others and the heap of shame left us feeling alone. He was there.
But Jesus did not come to die on the cross and rise again just so we could remain living there — in defeat, in our shame, in our past.
He came to redeem what we believed was unworthy, unwanted, and unloveable. Not because we deserved to be redeemed in any way, but because of His steadfast love and mercy towards us. Gretchen Saffles from Well-Watered Women Co. put it this way, “He didn’t require us to be fixed in order to know Him. It is in knowing Him that we are mended and made whole again.” (Saffles, Gretchen. Redefined. Well-Watered Women Co., 2017.)
When we know whose we are and who we are, everything changes. Because when we know that we are God’s daughters, his bride, then we know that we are not victims to the lies from Satan, We are wanted.
We are free.
We are chosen.
We are pursued.
We are worthy.
We are qualified.
All because of the cross and resurrection.
“But you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for His own possession. That you may proclaim the excellence of him who called you out of darkness into His marvelous light.” 1 Peter 2:9
Ladies, your worth is not found in your friends or the amount of friends you have. Your worth is not found in the validation of men. Your worth is not found in what you wear or how you look. Your worth is not found in the number of followers you have or the amount of likes you get. Your worth is in Jesus Christ Alone! Period.
“even as he chose us in him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and blameless before him. In love he predestined us for adoption to himself as sons through Jesus Christ, according to the purpose of his will, to the praise of his glorious grace, with which he has blessed us in the Beloved. In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of our trespasses, according to the riches of his grace, which he lavished upon us, in all wisdom and insight making known to us the mystery of his will, according to his purpose, which he set forth in Christ as a plan for the fullness of time, to unite all things in him, things in heaven and things on earth.”Ephesians 1:4-10
I think when we realize that our identity is rooted in the person of Jesus, and His work on the cross, we no longer will feel the need to strive towards an unattainable level of perfection, or that we have to have it all together. Everything fades away when we realize the passionate love that Jesus has for us and that He wants us.
God’s pursuit of you is His top priority! How will you respond to the one passionately pursuing your heart? Is your pursuit of Him your priority? He wants you. All of you. You can start to live as a woman who fully embraces who she is and whose she is by opening your heart up to the overwhelming love of Jesus. This epic love story is yours. You are wanted. You are pursued. You are loved. You have been called. You are of great value. You are a peculiar treasure. You are set free. You are spoken for.
Hey friends! I’m Daysha, and I feel so honoured to be writing for The Bud Co.! I live in Alberta, Canada and am currently finishing up my undergraduate degree in history. When I am not busy being a student you can find me mentoring teenaged girls, cuddling my fluffy dog, or watching shows like American Idol and Dancing With The Stars. I continue to stand in awe at the love God has for his daughters and am passionate about making it known. Come visit me on Instagram @daysh97 and check out my blog at https://beautifullylovedca.wordpress.com