If you’re anything like me, you’ve probably come up with some things you would change about yourself if you had the ability. I know I’ve toiled in front of the mirror thinking about all the “flaws” I have; seeing them as blemishes instead of a part of what God made me. Not only did I focus on what’s wrong with myself, I constantly compared myself to those around me. I thought of what they had that I wanted. I’ve found that this way of thinking is SO degrading. I had burned those negative pathways of thinking into my brain so much that they became automatic, and I had to consciously try to think positively about myself.
Why do we think so terribly of ourselves when we are created by an almighty God? How dare we critique the masterpiece that the Lord hand crafted. We look at the oceans and the mountains like works of art and see ourselves as mistakes, while God sees us as his most precious creation. The Bible says in 1 Corinthians 6:19-20, “Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price.” Jesus wouldn’t give his life for the sky or the moon, but he died for every one of us. He made the stars, the sun, and the sky for us, yet we see them as more beautiful than ourselves.
I want to assure you that you were made by an infallible God, so you are not a mistake. You were created with intention and attention to detail. He designed every freckle and stretch mark that you wish would disappear. Psalm 139:14-15 states, “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place, when I was woven together in the depths of the earth.” This is the attitude we should have about ourselves, praising God for how wonderfully he made us. Ultimately, God’s opinion matters more than anyone we want to impress, and he sees us as his greatest achievement.
When I reached a low point in my self-image, my mom had me write one thing a day that I liked about myself on a sticky note and put it on my mirror. I started to dwell more on the things I appreciated about myself than what I wanted to change. This was the start of my road to confidence and positive self-talk. I still struggle with insecurity and comparison to others, but I know I’m a daughter of the King who designed me in His image. If you’re struggling with your self-esteem in any way, I’d encourage you to take my mom’s advice and take a moment each day to recognize the things you appreciate about how God made you. Hopefully, one day, you’ll learn to appreciate the things you critique about yourself now.
I live in Lakewood, Colorado, and attend Colorado Christian University. I am studying psychology in hopes of becoming a counselor for youth. I love playing volleyball, drawing, and painting. My instagram is @ash_o_leyy